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You may have some deep, persistent desires that you want to talk about and sort through. You might want to discern a direction for your life that is in harmony with God’s desire for you. You might want to share your experiences and encounters with God. You may want help in getting your prayer back on track. Whatever your motivation in exploring spiritual direction, I would like to be your trusted confidant. With me, you can talk about your spiritual life, including the struggles, without having to censor your thoughts or choose your words carefully. I am here to listen, to offer guidance, support, and gentle challenge and, above all, to help you deepen your relationship with God through prayer and discernment.
Our spiritual journey is not meant to be a solitary journey. As we walk this earthly pilgrimage to God, we walk in companionship with others. Let us pray together for that closer walk with God.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is spiritual direction?
Spiritual direction is meeting with a trained and experienced director to reflect on how God is present and active in your life right now, and how God might be calling you into deeper relationship. The content of the direction session is simply your life: whatever aspect, story, or experience you feel moved to bring to prayer and reflection.
Above all, your spiritual director listens and helps you to notice the relationship you have with God. Your director may help you with discernment, methods of prayer, spiritual practices, and at times suggest scripture and other spiritual reading that may enlighten your path. Your director is present as a compassionate and respectful witness to the joys and sorrows of your journey.
Who needs a spiritual director?
I’m biased, but I believe everyone who is serious about their faith and who wants to grow in their relationship with God can be helped by a spiritual director.
Spiritual direction is for you if…
- You desire spiritual and personal growth.
- You want to deepen your life with prayer and other spiritual practices.
- You seek a safe, confidential place to explore your relationship with God.
- You want to connect with God in everyday life.
- You are in a time of uncertainty, transition and discernment – whether that’s seeking a new career or vocation, a midlife crisis, retirement, empty nesting, or other life changes.
- You are experiencing something unexpected, traumatic and painful, like the loss of a job, a dream, or a loved one.
How is spiritual direction different from pastoral counseling?
Spiritual direction is not pastoral counseling, or any other type of therapy, which focuses on solving problems in a person’s life. Spiritual direction instead centers on one’s relationship with God. That is not something to be solved but something to be deepened and celebrated.
Spiritual direction is also not a dependent relationship in which the director holds all the wisdom and the answers to your problems. Your director does not tell you what to do, but rather helps you to discern what God may be calling you to be or to do.
How do I choose a spiritual director?
A spiritual director is a mature Christian who you choose, after prayerful consideration, to accompany you, to encourage you, and to challenge you as you strive to respond to God’s invitation to a deeper relationship, which is most often experienced in prayer. It is essential to find someone with whom you resonate, and who understands your desires, values and faith perspectives. It needs to be someone who you’re comfortable talking with and who you’re confident really “gets” you.
Spiritual directors have different approaches, most often based on their formation and experiences in ministry. Mine is grounded in the spirituality of Saint Ignatius of Loyola and the Spiritual Exercises he developed over 500 years ago.
An effective spiritual director is someone who is:
- Called and committed to cultivating a life of listening and spiritual accompaniment.
- Gifted and practiced in discernment and listening to the Spirit.
- Experienced in a variety of spiritual disciplines that open others to God.
- Trained through a reputable training program.
- In spiritual direction himself and is also in ongoing supervision.
The best way to check for compatibility is to request a consultation and then to “interview” your potential spiritual director about their credentials and approaches. For a FREE, no obligation, coaching consultation with me, click here to Schedule a Call.
Take the spiritual directors you have talked with to prayer and ask for the Holy Spirit’s guidance in selecting the director who will be right for you at this time.
How much does spiritual direction cost?
Spiritual direction is $55 per session. The sessions are most often scheduled monthly, but there’s no rule to that. If you would like to pay for 12 sessions in advance, I offer a 10% discount.
How does spiritual direction take place?
Most often my spiritual direction sessions are done over the phone or Skype®. Many clients find it convenient to be able to have a private spiritual direction session without having to leave their home or office.
What happens in spiritual direction?
Typically we begin our private, spiritual direction sessions by becoming anchored in the moment in whatever way you prefer. Many choose to do this by spending a few moments in silence or prayer.
As the session continues, I invite you to bring up any topic that you would like to explore by asking, “How would you like to begin?” or “How has God been working in your life these last weeks?” While mostly listening, I may ask a few questions such as: “How were you called to trust God in this experience?” “What does this have to say to you about God?” “Is God nudging you to some action in your life?” “Is God asking you to wait?” “What do you yearn for most?” “For what are you most grateful?” I want to help you to discover for yourself where you are being led by the Spirit.
Mostly I listen and reflect back to you the wisdom of God that I notice in you. I do this without judgment, criticism or expectation.
As our time together draws to a close, I might summarize what I have heard in your story or I might emphasize an insight that the Holy Spirit has brought to light in the session. Then, in between sessions, I will encourage you to participate in spiritual practices that draw you into a deeper relationship with God.
How do I get started?
Contact me about an complimentary spiritual direction consultation. We will spend about 45 minutes talking about where you are, and where you want to be, in your relationship with God. Then, if you are ready to continue, we’ll talk about spiritual direction options that are best for you.
Who do you work with?
Many of my clients are Catholic, yet not exclusively. I am privileged to work with people from a variety of backgrounds. The people I direct are serious about their spiritual journey, or want to become serious about their relationship with God. Often they seek a deeper sense of meaning and purpose, and a greater sense of fulfillment.
Do you have recommendations or testimonials?
In addition to a number of recommendations on this website, you can review others on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukelarsoncoaching.
Can I contact you in-between our scheduled sessions?
Absolutely! If you have a question or would like support in between our meetings – or you just want to share a celebration – simply post a message in the Client Log and I will happily respond as soon as I am able.
Are there professional standards for coaching and spiritual direction?
I am a member in good standing with Spiritual Directors International. To read SDI’s Guidelines for Ethical Conduct, click here: http://www.sdiworld.org/sites/default/files/publications/Guidelines%20Revised%202014-proof1-2.pdf
I am also a member in good standing with the International Coach Federation, which has a code of ethics, core competencies and accreditation processes. To learn more, click here: http://www.coachfederation.org/ICF.
What if I decide it's not right for me? Is there a money back guarantee?
Certainly. My spiritual direction comes with a 60-day (two-session) full money back guarantee.
What Clients are Saying
"Being an entrepreneur, I often confront uncertainty. What path should I take? What amount of effort and resources should I expend? I needed a personal coach and decision making methodology to guide me through some tough decisions. I chose Luke, not only because of his experience in professional coaching, but also because of his grounding in Ignatian discernment and spirituality which offers over 450 years of history in leading people to make informed decisions based on their most authentic desires. Luke’s processes and guidance helped me to focus my efforts and gave me great confidence in the choices I made."
Tom McGuigan, Chicago, Illinois
"I needed someone to be objectively invested in my personal and professional development, who understood my values and would hold me accountable to them during a time of transition. Even though I was working diligently on achieving my goals, I didn't have the confidence to attain them on my own. Then a friend suggested that I contact Luke. Immediately I sensed Luke's integrity and spirituality. I knew he could be trusted. When I read his biography, I saw that he also has the professional credentials that are important. Luke truly cares. He helped me to attain my goals and launch a new career that is providing a quality of life I had only dreamed of."
Deborah Keefe, MSW Educator/Speaker/Consultant - Music as a Therapeutic Intervention in Healthcare
"I was trying to discern what I would like to be doing post-retirement, and had somehow managed to turn my retirement into a career crisis. Did I want to directly leverage my corporate career, or try something completely different? How to choose from several possible paths? Weighty stuff, this, and too important to go it alone. I wanted someone to bounce ideas off, and to challenge my thinking.
I really enjoyed the quick rapport I had with Luke. His approachable, empathic personality drew me out, and his questions were both supportive and challenging. I also found that preparing for our calls helped me organize my thinking in ways not possible when I had been trying to do this on my own. As a result of decision coaching I have embarked on a new career, one that affords the opportunity to counsel people one-on-one, which is enormously satisfying at this stage in my life”
Garrett Adie, Independent Financial Advisor, New Hampshire
"It was as the Director of Talent Development Programs for one of the largest Catholic health systems that I came to know and appreciate Luke Larson’s giftedness as a coach. Luke coached dozens of our high potential CEOs, vice presidents and directors across the system, always within the framework of our mission and values. Without exception, they lauded Luke’s remarkable ability to get them to see things from other perspectives. Whether you are seeking coaching or spiritual direction, I highly recommend Luke Larson."
Carolyn Foss - MBA, MCA, ACC
Executive Director at The Physician Leadership Institute™ Center for Transformation and Innovation
"I've been consistently impressed with Luke's gentle and intuitive style, and how he very quickly generates trust in his client relationships. Luke reminds me of a master artist or professional athlete with whom you can watch them at their craft, and it seems so fluid and easy, all the while knowing the discipline and skill behind the practice. As has been Luke's life, he lives a spiritual practice and brings that strength with him in his work, so that lives, spirits, and hearts are touched and emerge far better for having known and worked with him."
Joy Goldman - RN, MS, PCC, CPC
Healthcare Executive and Physician Leadership Coach
"I absolutely loved the Lenten Retreat. I felt that God had guided you to write this retreat specifically for me. It took me into the desert and blessed me with great spiritual growth and insight. I appreciate the extra week (Holy Week), which gave me extra time to “hear” what God wanted to say to me. Thank you, once again, Mr. Larson, for sharing your gifts!"
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